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Blog EntrySecrets of Good Relationships VIMar 14, '08 11:21 PM
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                                           PERSONAL PERCEPTION

                               Different people have different perception.
                         One man's meat could be another man's poison.

A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home, a boy commented, "Very stupid.

Why neither of them ride on the donkey? "Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey..

He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family.

How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this,

the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.

Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented,

"How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man.

He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons.

They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately

climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.

It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled.

They lost their balance and fell into the river.

You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you.

Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.

Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..


Blog EntrySecrets of Good Relationships VMar 14, '08 11:16 PM
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                                                      RIGHT SPEECH

                    There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that
                          "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation."

Many relationships break off because of wrong speech.

When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy.

We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.

A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site.

A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,

"Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school."

On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me.

Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered,

 "You should appreciate that you married me. Other wise, he will be the millionaire and not you."

Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship.

It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.


Blog EntrySecrets of Good Relationships IVMar 14, '08 4:59 AM
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                                                                                 NO OVERPOWERING

Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much.

People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage.

Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that

"It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character.."

It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing

the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.

It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..


Blog EntrySecrets of Good Relationships II Mar 14, '08 4:52 AM
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                                                                                        NO POINTING FINGERS

                                                                            A man asked his father-in-law,
                              "Many people praised you for a successful marriage.

Could you please share with me your secret?"
The father-in-law answered in a smile,

 "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or

when she does something wrong.

Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, s

he could not find a better husband than you."

We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face.

Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at.

This is the start of a war.

We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person,

the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.

If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.



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